Unsure about whether or not you’re ready to hit the dating scene
after your last breakup? After our hearts have been broken it can be
pretty hard to know what normality feels like and it’s difficult to be
sure whether we can get back on the dating scene or if we need to spend a
little more time scoffing cake, wearing nothing but a sad face. If you
recognise your own behaviour in any of the signs below, you’re probably
not quite ready to break that emotional bond you’ve made with your soppy
movies and box of tissues just yet.
Sign you haven’t moved on 1: You keep cute mementos
We’re not suggesting that you start loading your car with expensive
gifts from your ex and carting them down to the skip, but if you keep
those cute little mementos that remind you of your time together, you’d
be doing yourself a favour to get rid of them. You’ve kept the cinema
tickets from your first date? And the pen that you seized from the hotel
room where you first stayed together? Sheesh. By keeping hold of these
objects you’re only prolonging the pain.
Sign you haven’t moved on 2: Drunken texting
You feel like you’re over your ex, but then on a night out you just
can’t refrain from sending them an “I miass youuuUU” text and you’ve
just proven yourself wrong. It gets worse when you spend the rest of the
evening checking your phone for a reply and then – when this doesn’t
happen – the beer tears start flowing. You cry yourself to sleep and
wake up cringing the next day when you read through all of the texts you sent after the first one. Delete their number from your phone. Do it now.
Sign you haven’t moved on 3: You’ve become a serial stalker
If you find yourself getting spruced up only to hang around where
your former flame usually goes, we’re afraid you’re not over them.
Similarly, if you find yourself logging on to Twitter or Facebook
solely to see if there has been a change to their relationship status
or to see who that random cute girl/guy is who they’ve just become
“friends” with (and whom you point-blank refuse to believe is their
cousin), you need to chill out.
Sign you haven’t moved on 4: They’re in your bed
If you both intend for this breakup to be a serious one, don’t wake
up with your former other half in your bed. Yes, your former snuggle
bunny might be the only comfort that will help you get to sleep at the
moment, but if you’re going to break up, you will someday need to learn
to sleep without them. If you’re still having sex, this is a recipe for a
breakup disaster,
too. What will you do if/when your other half moves on and you’re left
feeling used? You’re going to feel worse in the long run.
Sign you haven’t moved on 5: You call your ex “by accident”
If you find yourself wracking your brain for ways to get in touch
with your ex, you’re definitely not over them. You
accidentally-on-purpose phone him or her and then hang up in the hope
that they’ll call back so you can say, “Oh, sorry – my phone must have
called you from my pocket by accident. Anyway, how are you?” Ladies and
gentlemen, no matter how creative and smooth you think this move is,
it’s an age-old trick that is so obvious, it makes us cringe.
Sign you haven’t moved on 6: You have a breakup playlist
You’ve had Adele’s
Someone Like You on repeat since you
broke up and you swear that the singer herself has been stalking you and
used you as inspiration for the lyrics. This is not to mention the
slow motion collage of images from your relationship that float through
your head every time you listen to the soppy
song. If you’ve found yourself in a similar situation recently, we can pretty confidently say that you aren’t over your ex.
Sign you haven’t moved on 7: You date someone similar
Of course you’re over your ex! You’re dating someone else who is
kind, gorgeous and… just like your ex. This is a common sign that you
aren’t over your former other half after all. If you’re moved on from
this person then why are you trying to replace them with someone who is
just the same? Instead of trying to replicate what you lost soon after a
breakup, you need to deal with your issues head-on to completely get
rid of that pain. Once you’ve dealt with the pain you will feel
refreshed and ready to move on with someone else (who probably won’t be
anything like the ex).
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